Messy hair, big glasses and a comfy T-shirt… I know that right now all I have to offer this world is positivity, coffee happiness and my self-love…
Every situation in life leads you to describe or articulate what you individually have to offer. How do you know what you have to offer if you do not know yourself? How does one get to know themselves to know their strengths and weaknesses if they do not know what they have to offer this world?!
We are a species that is forever changing and evolving not only as a society, but as individuals. As individuals, society is always pressuring us to fit in. To be thin or muscular that being an outcast is just that… outcasting yourself from society in order to blend in to your surroundings. I remember being in high school and thinking I needed to buy this sweater or this t-shirt because that is what the other girls in my grade were wearing; I remember growing out my hair because I felt like it would make my face slimmer and everyone else was slim. I realize now that a lot of the things I did during the “find yourself” teenage period were due to me wanting to fit in, but not about me wanting to find myself.
Finding yourself as a person is one of the hardest and longest tasks you will ever have to endure during your lifetime. Your appearance and your personality may develop and evolve, but you are always going to be the same person inside. You will have the same heart, the same instincts and the same basic understanding for what you like and dislike. There are steps or goal-posts if you will that can simplify the loving and knowing process for yourself…
I think the first step to understanding what you have to offer is realizing that you don’t have to offer anything you have or yourself to anyone or anything you don’t feel is right. You don’t have to open up or share or even explain yourself to someone you are not keen on. Don’t let society pressure you into thinking that doing everything for everyone else will help you gain understanding about yourself. Obviously as a child, your mother expected you to share and surrounded you with other children to help your sociability grow, but as a teenager or even as an adult you have a choice about who and what you associate yourself with. You may be incredibly successful in your life, but you decide to associate yourself with drugs and it ruins your future. You made that choice to use those drugs and you made the choice to associate yourself with something that now not only harmed your body, but also with what you have to offer yourself and society.
The second step to understanding yourself is taking the time to really look at yourself in the mirror and truly see yourself for who you are. Don’t suck in your stomach, don’t flex your muscles, don’t make odd faces to try and contour your cheeks— just stand as you and look deeply. Realize that the flaws you think you may have do not define you. Realize the perfect things you have do not make you closer to perfect. Realize that you have to love yourself before you are able to love or show love to anything or anyone else. I do this daily, despite the fact that it makes me feel slightly goofy. I look into the mirror and repeat to myself that “I am beautiful because I am Kelsey Ann DiSanzo”; I say this two or three times until I smile at the end and it truly sinks into my soul. When I practice yoga, AKA my favorite time of the morning and the reason I get up, I always make it a point to chant that phrase whether aloud or in my head and to constantly think of things I love about myself but also things I want to improve.
Self Improvement is key for wanting to improve your self-image and discovering what you have to offer. Realize that you are someone, and you matter. Maybe you aren’t the thinnest or have the straightest teeth. Maybe you hate thinking about yourself and never give yourself the chance to be yourself, but why keep running from who you are when you are A-M-A-Z-I-N-G! You know what you have to offer because you are taking the journey every day to figure yourself out. We may be a species that is forever evolving, but remember that through all of that being you is the best way to be constant.
If you do a daily chant or have a ritual that makes you feel empowered, positive or extremely awesome please share in the comments below!
Stay Positive, and be yourself always