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The endless statements that are invoked on us from society are filled with negativity and hate for individuality and differences in the people that make up society. There was never meant to be one cookie-cut person that made up the entire society we live in. What fun would it be to have multiples of the same personality and the same style?! We are slowly killing individuality and creativity with the judgments we are provoking on one another on a daily basis. I have personally struggled with the negativity and the endless statements about how I should be and how I should act, and I just remember these helpful tips to get through it all and be me.
Guideline 1: Focus on the Road, Not the Stop Sign
This guideline simply means that all the negative comments that are aimed at you or criticisms created about you or what you do with your life are all stop signs or obstacles that are hindering you from focusing on the future (aka the road). This may seem difficult because I know that those comments and obstacles can hit close to the gut and can stop you in your tracks, but showing your confidence and strength in who you are and what you are doing is a way to knock those comments down and turn them into gravel. Some of my favorite phrases to use personally for situations when I know that someone is just trying to invoke negativity are:
Guideline 2: Remember that You Molded Yourself into You
Yes, some people influenced you and crafted certain elements of your personality and your life and where you may be at, but all the internal hardware and all the commentary and style… that is all YOU! How you are is how you made yourself. You have to love yourself and know that you created you and that should bring you confidence. On the flip side, if you find that you are the one bringing negativity and attracting negativity into your life through situations or certain people, then maybe it is time to reconfigure your work and learn to make yourself happy all over again. Positivity starts within yourself and it brings confidence. Certain characteristics that I have molded into myself that help me fiend off negativity are:
Guideline 3: Meet Your Haters with Kindness
We all have haters. People who can’t stand the way we do anything in our lives. The best way to defeat them is to be your superhero positive self and come at them with as much kindness as you can. That is every single negativity villain’s weakness. This may seem cliche, but some people don’t realize how difficult of a task this can be when they are actually put into a specific situation. You just have to remember that being an individual is not a crime its a blessing and that the negativity that those villains are trying to burden you with is just jealousy of what you created for yourself.
We all deserve to be different. We deserve to feel different, look different, think different and most of all act different. Some people may have told you it is selfish to be entitled, but when it comes to fighting negativity and criticism from society you are entitled to being yourself. There is no one in the world like you and that is what makes us all go round.
What do you all do to fight off negativity from society and those around you?
Stay YOU-nique Fellow Positivity Seekers!
Women are notorious for giving men multiple so-called signs about their emotions, their wants and needs without being straightforward and upfront. Men are more of the literal gender; they do what is told to them. Most males do not like the games or puzzles that some women cast upon them because they may be afraid or unable to be upfront with their emotions.
All of that may be true, but there are 5 signs that every man should know about when it comes to speaking the female language.
Sign # 1: When a Woman Stands Motionless at a Door
What the Male Response Should Be: This sign symbolizes that the woman is wanting to be catered too and still believes in the old fashioned chivalry rules. She is trying to be on the male side, fighting saying ‘chivalry is not dead’. The male gender should remember this basic sign of chivalry and open the door for the lady whether it be a car door or a public office door. Realize that she is fighting for what others may think is dead– open the door and open your emotions!
Sign #2: When a Woman Says “I’m Fine”
What the Male Response should be: Come over NOW, and come prepared. Bring chocolate, coffee (or wine/beer), maybe a chick-flick and blanket for snuggling and tears. When a woman uses this over-used phrase she is typically battling her inner emotions and is reaching out for someone to take care of her without asking too many questions. Make sure to not let her get away with locking everything in, but be gentle with your phrasing and continually support her. Men can be gentle– giving her a call to show you are there for her is showing your true colors!
Sign #3: When a Woman Texts You One Word Answers
What the Male should Realize: Like the Backstreet Boys would say, “Quit Playing Games with My Heart”. Women are usually the gender that will lay their emotions and heart on the line. Society has made text messaging the new form of communication and not all men have quite grasped the concept of editing before sending. When a woman gets to the point of no longer putting in effort, she is beginning to feel the exhaustion and lose of hope in her ability to maintain any sort of relationship with you. The best thing to do is to show her you care; dig deeper into your conversation and allow her to understand where you are at with your emotions for her. You have the power to make or break the situation by how you respond–don’t play games with her heart.
Sign #4: When a Woman Gets Jealous Over ANY Situation
What the Male Response Should Be: Women get jealous for one reason and one reason only. Because they care about the person involved; in some cases are too self conscious of the situation. This is another societal mishap in regards to text messaging and social media in today’s society. Women, especially now-a-days, feel the need to battle every other woman who they think might threaten their relationship, or chance of relationship. Men are normally blamed by society as the cheaters and the disloyal gender; women are also noticed just not as openly. What men should really do in this situation is be honest with her and either explain or truthfully deny any allegations/accusations about what they are doing with or without their crush or significant other. Every man has their breaking point, I understand that the constant nagging may be too emotionally consuming, but that is where you choose to confront and dissolve the situation or fuel it by not talking about it. Men and women just need to be loyal and truth tellers. Period.
Sign #5: When a Woman Changes for You
What the Male Should Realize: This is a HUGE trait that many women pertain to utilize when it comes to crushing too hard and wanting a relationship possibly before the male is ready. She is willing to change plans, change her style, change her personality just to make her crush desire her, despite the fact that she is no longer truly herself. The male in this situation again should not play any games and be careful what is stated concerning his type or what he is seeking without reminding her (if warranted by the male’s feelings) that she encompasses what he is looking for. Women need reassurance to become comfortable with a man, to open up and to be who they truly are. The male gender in this situation may want to stimulate her confidence, take her, show her off or better yet, be your goofy male confused self around her showing that you are completely open.
Women are strange creatures and we morph and change as society evolves, but these five signs are the basic talk of the female-language and could help any man get through any situation. It may be difficult to open up and express how you feel, but if you truly want a woman she can’t be the only one to give and you be the only one to take.
Love is a two-way street… full of signs.
When an era ends, sometimes the heart ends with it. Relationships are a struggle. They are work, they are attention driven and attention seeking. They are indifferent to everything else in our lives, they are their own category. They create their own willpower to exert that energy, care, time and effort to watch that crush turn into a fully bloomed up-kept relationship. But, how do we know when a crush should remain a fling or flourish into a relationship?
I, recently in the past few months, ended an era in my personal life. A fully blossomed, fully engaged relationship, and it got me contemplating the differences and the boundaries of a fling and a relationship. We parted our separate ways as peacefully as possible after the era we had shared, but back when he was just a crush, what if I decided that he should have only stayed a fling. Would I as a woman in love have saved myself from the stress, the disappointment and the heartbreak, or would I have missed out on wonderful memories and experiences I could never forget.
I think the boundaries of a fling vs. the boundaries of a relationship are all determined by your end goal at that time in your mind. If they are, “just cute” or they are, “just a hook up”, are those good enough reasons to risk our hearts and explore a relationship? NO. Men are too confusing and too confident in their abilities to simply explain their feelings and actions, and women are so wrapped up in knowing what is happening and where it is headed that we miss the whole experience of loving and growing something organically.
Organically grown relationships are the recipe for success in your love life recipe book. You plant the seed, the hint that you enjoy his company or like his hair. The seed feels nurtured and cared for and then offers you a bud, his reaction to your kindness and returning his feelings in the best way he knows how. You then, water the budded flower each week it offering you more leaves and stem, and eventually if it is ready and you have provided it enough care it blooms.
Flowers and relationships are one in the same. They may take work, they may cause heartbreak, but not every fling is a fling. Not every fling should be a relationship, but no matter the struggles and the hurt. No matter the hatred and disappointment. Don’t give up on relationships and don’t settle for flings. Just be cautious and pick and choose with your heart and how you feel. We should never be afraid to replant a flower, or rebuild our garden because everyone deserves to have someone– specifically someone that brings you flowers.